Anger Management

• If you notice that you’re getting angry more often, stop and ask yourself:

• What other emotions are involved here? What triggered those feelings?

• What assumptions am I making about others?

• Hanlon’s Razor - Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.

Anxiety

• If it feels like you've got too little time and too much to do, sometimes it's helpful to create a visual model of your schedule to see where you can add things in. You can use the Schedule Template on my Resources page, or block off time in the calendar on your phone to get a better look at when and where you've got the time to address things.

• Avoidance is NOT a valid coping skill for anxiety. The more you avoid doing something, the bigger your fear becomes.

  
  

Couples

• If you’ve never heard of John and Julie Gottman, look them up. There’s a lot of free videos and resources available online to give you general guidance. Specifically, look into the “Sound Relationship House” - https://www.gottman.com/blog/what-is-the-sound-relationship-house/

• It would be helpful to read about attachment, and to identify what attachment style you have. Each attachment style represents a different kind of framework that we apply to relationships.

  • https://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/

• You’ve got to give your partner a chance to learn how to love you best. You can’t teach them how to love you if you don’t know how to love yourself.

Depression

• Keep in mind that there are situations in which you may not have control over the things that are directly depressing you. Feeling helpless can increase a sense of depression. One thing we CAN control in helpless situations is how we think about the things that are happening to us. Where you are now does not define you. Identify where you want to be and what kind of person you want to be, and work towards that.

Parenting

• Pay attention to the parenting methods you’re using, and ask yourself these questions:

  •  Where did you first learn those parenting behaviors? How did they work for you?

  • What lessons do you want your children to learn? What might be a more effective way to teach these things?

Other Relationships

• Be mindful of the word “should ". Just because we think somebody should do something doesn't mean that it's actually possible for them.

PAY ATTENTION TO THE WORLD AROUND YOU.

WHAT PROBLEMS CAN YOU IDENTIFY?

 WHO HAS THE GREATEST IMPACT ON THOSE ISSUES?

IF THE ANSWER IS POLITICIANS, YOU NEED TO BECOME AN INFORMED VOTER AND SHARE WHAT YOU LEARN WITH OTHERS, AND PUSH THEM TO BECOME INFORMED AND INVOLVED BY VOTING AND TAKING ACTION.

IT’S UP TO US TO MAKE THIS DEMOCRACY WORK FOR US.